Divorce lawyer sparks debate after explaining why men should always pay on first dates

It’s a dilemma for men everywhere: who should pay for a first date? Well, a divorce lawyer says men should always shell out. Here are his two pennies:

Lee explained in a video to his TikTok account that it’s not about the money itself, but about what it means.

He said paying can reveal things about a potential partner that would typically take a lot longer to learn.

“The issue isn’t how many dollars we’re spending at the end of the date; if that’s the case, respectfully, you need to go get a job,” Lee said.

“The problem is when we end up paying for someone who has this real sense of entitlement, like this expectation that we’ll pay. That’s precisely why we always have to pay.

“Whoever your date is may very well be the person you end up marrying. And believe me when I say, as a divorce lawyer, who you end up marrying is so, so important.

Lee says paying on a first date is good for men. Credit: @jleejd

“Let’s say at the end of the date, you pull out your wallet and offer to pay. And your date just sits there, waiting for you to pay, as if that’s the obvious course of action.”

He continued: “You have just learned that the person in front of you has the right, and frankly, the audacity to expect a close stranger to pay for them. Imagine how someone like that would treat his significant other.

“For a low price of $20, $30, $40, you learned that the person in front of you lacks the basic courtesy to pretend to offer to pay. And so you should never go to a another date with her.”

Unsurprisingly, his comments sparked quite a debate in the comments.

One user said, “I agree 100% It’s the right that is such an inconvenience.”

Another popped up: “No, guys should pay on the first date. I’m old school.”

Should men always pay on a first date?  Credit: Alamy
Should men always pay on a first date? Credit: Alamy

“You should always pay because that tells us you’re going to be a good supplier,” said a third.

Another added: “I expect my wife to take care of me. I won’t pretend.”

Later, Lee dove into the comments himself to go over some of the points he raised.

He explained: “Oh my God, this has sparked quite a debate. Many of you are missing the point of the video – it’s not about who ends up paying, it’s about respecting and appreciating the As I said in the video, men will gladly pay – payment is not the issue.

“The problem is when women perceive payment as an obligation rather than a kind gesture. Authorized vs. Appreciative. Nobody owes anybody anything!

“And or the record, it’s not gender specific – any man or woman who feels entitled to [any way] towards the other is a marching red flag.”

Jon J. Epps